Not many people talk about turning 45. Probably because it's overshadowed by 50. But 45 seems like abetter mid-life point to pause for reflection. Afterall, it's a little arrogant to call 50 mid-life when a man's life expectancy is only about 74 years. But who ever heard of a two-thirds-life crisis? And by that standard, even 45 overly optimistic. My dad died before reaching his 47th birthday. So there's that little dark cloud looming. But we can discuss that next year.
For now, I just thought I'd share a few things I've learned over the past 45 years...
• Trust is alot like forgiveness: we forgive another person not to free him/her from obligation, but to free ourselves from resentment. So we trust, not to add to another's obligations, but to free ourselves from fear.
• It is the job of the poet to make us nostalgic for the present.
• Our hearts are never so expansive as when we look into the faces of our children.
• People with dry-cleaning hanging in their car are bad drivers.
• It is better to walk toward one thing than to run from another.
• A blowjob is the sincerest form of flattery.
• Freedom and security are always at odds.
• If we are all God's children, He's behind on the child support.
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Thanks for all the well wishes.